- Hate what you’re attracted to in that person
There is a way to hate your attraction in others with who you know you’re truly attracted to. So when you see that person especially the opposite sex.
Let’s say for example it’s her shape you’re so crazy about and your wife doesn’t really have it like that. Even if she have it but that person own won’t just keep your eyes off….
What you need to do is… Hate that shape! Just pick hatred in it because if you don’t… You’ll keep loving it to the point that you’ll love to stay around that lady always!
Before you know it, if the person too “want to do” then I can tell you’re in trouble because such may even twerk for you and then do some dances that looks like sexual positions and then thoughts will flood into your mind.
Gbam! You’re off! So build up hatred for that thing. Infact this will work for any attraction you see in such folks and this will help you to truly avoid such.
Oh I just pick the mind of someone that says “what if I can’t avoid the person, we’re working in the same place” yeah, even if you can’t avoid the person.
In your heart of heart pick hatred towards it. If you’re the type that normally pass comment towards her shape, then stop it. Yes, she will notice it, but yes make it intentional!
Building hatred for a thing sets your mind off that thing!
To hate what you are attracted seems quite tricky cos sometimes we begin to like Wat we seem to have hated .
As Christians we can choose a good and genuine reason to clearly back away from whom you are attracted to. Even if it means telling them to their faces that you have chosen to disconnect with them cos u are married.
I respectfully tell all my ex to disconnect with me once they are married cos I refuse to be the devil that haunts a home.
Married couples should build discipline that prevents them from straying away.
There’s a reason why sex is for the married, if we have sex with just our wives or husbands, we can’t possibly know how the next person feels like.
My mom always says….. “The stream won’t swallow the leg of person that did not visit it.”
I must express that there be wisdom in hating what one likes…
In truth it helps for balance especially when we barely realise we must cut the excesses of our affections…
One of the Elements of manipulations is the over drive of the things we love, knowing/not knowing the tendency for such to blind our hearts and minds from the results of excessive compulsion and loosing the lines of good/pleasurable and bad/unpleasurable could not only be detrimental to oneself but also to those who love us and surround us…
So it’s fine to hate what you love knowing the harm it could bring… Giving for example;
the intake of excessive food and sugary things impose a health disorder, obesity and it’s likes… Asides the physical poisoning, there is also the menta…
2. Be sincere enough to say to yourself that you love what you see(the attraction)
Denying what you love is to keep yourself and then build heaps of lust for that thing for years and then it becomes a thing that can’t be cut away.
Don’t deceive yourself especially if you just love the way maybe a guy spend for you or cares for you. Don’t deceive yourself about it… When you do this it will help you device a means to find a way out especially when it is affecting your home or relationship.
Which of course if it is not affecting your home or relationship. I fear to tell you that you’re not taking your marriage serious or your relationship.
So get sincere with yourself that you love that particular thing then engage yourself with means to come out of it. This is because if you don’t, as you enter one, you’ll see another.
One of the ways the devil use this attraction thing against homes is especially when the wife and the husband are not maybe having consistent sex or communication in their marriage.
The devil will just bring someone who can give you the thing to you willingly and especially how you wanted it that your wife can not do. This is the reason why in marriages we must learn to compromise to do what our partner want especially on sex in marriage.
So the devil will raise such person and before long you’re in for it. I heard of the case of a married woman who’s husband feels she’s lazy when it comes to sex.
Then one she find a guy who they were both sleeping together. She said she gave herself fully to the guy even more than her husband and now she’s enjoying the guy and doesn’t want her husband again. You see that?
These are operations of the devil in people’s lives especially when couples don’t talk and get to improve themselves maybe about their sexual lives or communication.
3. Speak to your partner about it
Personally I feel we should not be afraid of telling our partners things we believe is hidden to them. So this will make you see that why you do what you know you can’t tell your partner about?
So when you see that you’re getting distracted to another lady or guy, talk to your partner about it and then pray together. This will help your partner trust you more…
It will also help watch over you in matters like that. If we keep in mind that we won’t hide anything for one another in marriage. We will become cautious of what we do in the secret when our partner is not there.
My Lord! This thing is the killer of it all and if we don’t pray to have contentment it may ruin alot of things. When contentment is not in place in a marriage or relationship, it can damage the home or the relationship.
Contentment makes you feel like “why should I look lustfully at you? Why must I sleep with you? Why must I go out with you without my husband’s consent? Why must I spend so much time that I can never spend with my wife or husband with you?”
If you allow contentment to have her perfect work in you. It will keep so many things you never knew was there in your life to even begin with.
Contentment makes you stay off even at what you know is getting your heart away. You’re just contented knowing that what the Lord give to me is good and perfect.
Contentment is the killer that makes you look like opposite sex like just every other lady or sister without any emotional attachment.
Contentment is what makes you keep your ring in your hand as a married man, as a reminder that you’re married and whenever you want to commit the Holy Ghost will just quicken your heart and will keep make the ring to hitch your hand and you’ll say “know I can’t do this! I can’t use my own hand to destroy my own marriage!”
Contentment is what makes you stay when things that are better than what you have comes to challenge things that you should have.
Contentment is what makes you feel committed to your wife or husband sexually for the rest of your life without looking outside of your marriage!
Contentment is fear of God. When the fear of God is not installed in the heart of a man, anything transferred to it, will just be installed and opened automatically!
Contentment is what makes you stay committed even when your wife is lacked in an area and something comes around to distract you, you just stay.
Contentment is what makes you stay even when it looks justified to you that since your husband is not satisfying you at home, you should cheat or because he’s also cheating you should revenge.
Contentment is what keeps you on your knees until your marriage work!
May the Lord keep our homes.
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