By
Sexologist Omolola Natural.
Looking away from the seemingly big English; Erectile Dysfunction simply means a penis that finds it hard to get hard or to stay hard.
This like the orgasmic dysfunction can be equally frustrating.
This though doesn’t make it the end of sex in your marriage, more men than you can imagine go through this. Good news is that if well handled, it will not stay forever.
Sometimes this could be caused by the wife.
If she is dirty.
If she constantly tells the husband; I don’t want sex when he is already high. With time, the penis will be used to rejection and would not be able to rise or stay up for long with her. Let that man try one willing babe outside, that same penis would jump up and stay up.
I am not recommending adultery, I am only saying, there is danger in some things we do as wives unconsciously. I am also not saying you shouldn’t say no to your husband when there is a real reason too.
I am saying; if the ‘no’ is constant, that penis will reject you the day you want it too.
Well, women alone don’t cause this problem.
Sometimes it comes for no reasonđ.
Sometimes, it is caused by obesity on the man’s part.
It is also common, very common in a man who use to take achoholic drink / smoke and then suddenly stops taking it.
This are basic reason…and this is usually the case 90% of the time. Research has shown though, that in 10% of the time, this is usually an early sign of a more deeper heart related disease.
So, today, I am going to type in here some recommendations.
If you try all and non works, I recommend you see a doctor immediately.
I forgot to mention that surgery and some medications causes this too. So, if you started using a particular medicine and you notice this, stop the medicine immediately.
If you are experiencing ED, do this;
đšCommunicate with your spouse.
đšRelax
đšRediscover
đšStart and maintain healthy habits
đšLose weight, exercise
Play.
đšDonât give up
Erectile dysfunction (ED) doesnât have to signal the end of your sex life.
While waiting for your efforts to treat Ed to yield result; you and your partner can still enjoy physical intimacy and a satisfying sexual life.
HOW ?
đš Learn some strategies to keep the spark in your relationship alive.
đšCommunication is key.
The most important tool for a satisfying sex life is communication with your partner, especially when youâre faced with ED or other challenges.
Talk openly about your desires and your fears. If youâre experiencing ED or low libido, your wife may worry that you no longer find her attractive. She may suspect she is doing something wrong or undesirable. Infact she may think you are getting satisfaction from outside. Itâs important to reassure each other and remain supportive.
đšDonât be afraid to ask for help from a good sex therapist.
đšTry to relax.
Anxiety is one of the biggest contributors to ED. In some cases, it may play a larger role than physiological problems. When youâre worried that you wonât be able to perform or enjoy yourself in bed, youâre less likely to enjoy yourself. Itâs a self-fulfilling cycle.
When you are worried about the bills, the school fees, the rent fee, the feeding allowance…
Try not to focus on your worries when youâre getting intimate with your wife. Worrying won’t actually bring solution, it is just a way to keep the brain busy doing nothing. So, instead of loosing on two sides, enjoy the moment with your spouse. Deep breathing exercises may help you relax. Massage techniques may also bring you simple pleasure and relaxation through touch. The more relaxed you are, the more ready youâll be for a fulfilling and stress-free sexual experience.
đšRediscover each other.
Do you remember when you and your partner first started dating and every touch you shared was exciting, electrifying, intoxicating? All the little touches..all the opportunity to just move your fingers over her lips. Do you remember what it was like to explore and discover each otherâs likes and dislikes?
Try to relive that time together. Kiss and laugh and experiment. Take your mind off the clock and enjoy your time together. Itâs OK if you need to do more touching and caressing to reach a state of arousal. You may even find that you love the extra foreplay and become more in tune with your partner than ever before.
đšAvoid unhealthy habits. Especially if you are just coming out of one, avoid going back into it. For example, someone who stops alcohol intake will find out his bed performance drops…no two way about this. It must happen. So rather than going back into alcohol intake to cushion this drop such can go a better way. Although, longer.
So;
quit smoking
avoid heavy drinking
avoid illicit drugs, such as marijuana, cocaine, heroin, and amphetamines
Certain medications can also contribute to ED, including some antidepressants, antihistamines, blood pressure medications, painkillers, and drugs for Parkinsonâs disease.
đšObesity is a contributing factor for ED for many men.
Losing excess weight and getting regular exercise may improve your sex life.
Research reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association suggests that regular exercise and a calorie-restricted diet can help treat ED among obese men. Regular exercise can also improve cardiovascular health, muscular strength, and overall well-being.
Regular exercise can help support a healthy sex life.
Some types of exercise may be especially useful, e.g; pelvic floor exercises. This can help treat ED. These âKegel exercisesâ can also help treat urinary and bowel incontinence or âdribbling”
(It is also good for women who wants to tighten their vagina)
đšGet playful with your partner.
Even if you canât maintain a firm erection, you may still be able to orgasm. Even without intercourse, you and your partner can give each other a great deal of sexual pleasure. All you need is a little creativity.
Mutual masturbation can help you and your partner learn what you both enjoy. You can also use sex toys, such as vibrators, to stimulate each other. Both manual and oral stimulation can be very fun and satisfying.
Remember , sex doesnât have to stay in your bed. You can get intimate while watching a sexy movie or playing a board game (especially, the strip board gameđđ). Just get adventurous and have fun!
Donât give up
For most people, physical intimacy is an important part of a happy and satisfying relationship. Itâs possible to have a fulfilling sexual relationship even if you canât maintain an erection.
For a truly satisfying and sustainable sex life, itâs important to take care of your overall health and practice good communication with your partner. Adjust your sexual expectations, adopt healthy habits, and find creative ways to satisfy each otherâs needs.
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