Today, we will be talking about; Orgasmic Dysfunction
This is a condition that occurs when someone has difficulty reaching orgasm. This difficulty occurs even when they’re sexually aroused and there’s sufficient sexual stimulation. When this condition occurs in women, it’s known as female orgasmic dysfunction. Men can also experience orgasmic dysfunction, but this is much less common.
Orgasms like we know are intense feelings of release during sexual stimulation. They can vary in intensity, duration, and frequency. Orgasms can occur with little sexual stimulation, but sometimes much more stimulation is necessary, especially for the female spouse
If we should take a roll call here of women that actually achieve orgasm during sex, I am not sure we will have up to 10%. It seem to me we have more women that that fake it than does who experience it. For the men, it is hardly ‘fakable’ (if there is any English like that😁).
What then is the caused of this condition?
1. older age
2. medical conditions, such as diabetes, a history of gynecological surgeries, such as a hysterectomy or
the use of certain medications, particularly drugs for depression.
3. cultural or religious beliefs .
Here is where the question asked the other day about why women don’t ask for sex comes in. I saw a publication recently too from a man who said moaning is demonic and the first planting time his wife tried it, he warned he never to again. He even said in his article that any wife who does it should be taken for deliverance😏😏. Now imagine a woman who attends his church, I think he’s a pastor(I can’t really remember again) and she’s taught this. She will go home and supress her emotion, such woman can NEVER, I repeat NEVER experience the beauty and wholeness of orgasm.
Culture teaches too, sex is for procreation, and so a woman feels she has no not right to want sex if not that she wants to get pregnant. When pregnancy is not even among the first 10 reasons why we fuck.
So, this cultural and religious believes are great limitations.
I am sure you are thinking of a woman right now, but I have had clients whose husbands are very shy;
Shy about their body. So, this doesn’t apply to a woman alone.
But since this issue affects a woman more, I will focus on her instead.
Not being confident about your body can hinder you from enjoying sex fully and achieving climax.
Let me teach you how to overcome body shyness.
Replace negative thoughts with positive ones..Simple.
So, you are shy about the belly, it carried his children.
The stretch mark? Wasn’t it for the same cause?
Although, I support exercise as much as you can, don’t get obsessive with it. You are big? Good for you, flaunt all the blessings you have back and front. You are simply loaded and gifted and blessed, don’t be shy about it.
You are small, flaunt your flexibility.
The truth is;
Whatever shape, height, buttock size, breast size you’ve got, it is someone else’s prayer point…and God had deem it fit to bless you with it. Flaunt it, dear wife. Flaunt it for your man.
5. guilt about enjoying sexual activity.
This is still related to the teachings we have been fed on sex. If you are here and still feel guilty. Let me remind you. You are legally, spiritually, traditionally, religiously and all the lly permitted to have sex in any place😉 ( have you tried the car? Or visiting your husband in his office for a quick table doggy?) at any time (morning is sweetest though) in any way.
6. History of sexual abuse
mental health conditions, such as depression or anxiety.
This is quite difficult especially for women who have gone through the trauma of rape and can’t seem to take the science off their mind. Every sex meeting with their spouse ignites the memory and this makes it less enjoyable and so they can’t ever achieve orgasm.
My recommendation is such a person should see a trauma therapist.
If you live in Lagos this should be very clear😁😁. And that’s why I always recommend the morning, less stress, everything is cool and relaxed.
8. poor self-esteem
Still related to shyness explained above.
9. relationship issues, such as unresolved conflicts or lack of trust
Sometimes, a combination of these factors can make achieving an orgasm difficult.
So, a husband is jerking away and the wife is thinking ‘sha do and commot’🤦♀️. There is no way she will achieve orgasm that way.
The inability to orgasm can lead to distress, which may make it even harder to achieve orgasm in the future.
I’m sure the phrase ‘he is using me’ is quite common, but the truth is in sex…both of you are using yourself. It is a mutually enjoyable act. So if you refuse to enjoy yourself, you are the one doing yourself.
How to know if you have this problem?
1. You have unsatisfying orgasms.
2. You take longer than normal to reach climax.
Women with orgasmic dysfunction may have difficulty achieving orgasm during sexual intercourse.
There are four types of orgasmic dysfunction:
1. Primary anorgasmia: A condition in which you’ve never had an orgasm.
2. Secondary anorgasmia: Difficulty reaching orgasm, even though you’ve had one before.
3. Situational anorgasmia: The most common type of orgasmic dysfunction. It occurs when you can only orgasm during specific situations, such as during oral sex or masturbation.
4. General anorgasmia: An inability to achieve orgasm under any circumstances, even when you’re highly aroused and sexual stimulation is sufficient.
The inability to orgasm can be frustrating, very frustrating and may have an impact on your relationship. It could water down your interest in sex.
However, you may be able to reach climax with proper treatment. It’s important to know that you’re not alone. Many women deal with orgasmic dysfunction at some point in their lives.
If you have orgasmic dysfunction, you may find sex therapy to be particularly helpful. Meeting with a therapist can help you and your partner learn more about one other’s sexual needs and desires. It will also address any relationship issues or everyday stress that may be contributing to your inability to orgasm. Resolving these underlying causes can help you reach orgasm in the future. There are also natural products that could be recommended. This products makes the clitoris extra sensitive and more climax’able’. Let me close this class with this smoothie recipe .
So if you can, tomorrow, make smoothies. But make sure your spouse is home o.
Cut it open. (The seed is good for highblood pressure. Can be grated into soup)
The flesh of avocado will help in hormonal balance . Burns belly fat. Helps lower cholesterol.
2. Banana contains cerotoline. (Makes you happy.)
3. Tiger nut.
Helps increase libido. Helps burn fat. Helps regulate your digestive system.
4. Ginger. (Optional)
5. Almond oil (optional)
Cut in the ripe avocado with the back. Just remove d debris of the seed inside.
Grind the tiger nut separate , sieve to get the milk.
(The shaft can be mixed with ur swallow)
Put the milk into d avocado and banana. And blend. Choose how light you want it to be. And how smooth u want it.
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